DexterPunk wrote: Is it selfish to put yourself first, when ultimately it will help your family if you're more content and less stressed in your job? I reckon once you feel a bit better, start looking again. It really seems like it would help a lot of the issues. Even if it's a job to keep you going until you score what you really want. I just don't think it's worth being unhappy in your job.
if i didn't have 3 other people to put before me i'd agree with you, In fact i do agree with you and it's part of the ongoing discussions that regularly happen at our house. I personally think a job on wages would be better for all of us. I'd be happier and more relaxed, we'd know what was coming in every week even if it was less than we're used to, and i'd get paid holidays. But i can't really earn less than the bills that are coming in just for my own happiness. I heard a saying a while ago that the order of importance in a family is kids, wife, dog, husband. I know a few guys that feel that way, i guess it's just how it goes when you take on the role. Mums sacrifice a lot too but in a different way. It's just what you do when you have a family, house etc.